So wait a minute.

Does this mean that I don't have to do anything to get people to like me? Or dislike me? That I can be an absolute flake, or really really quiet, or senselessly obnoxious, and I might not be absolutely pushed to the margins of society?

More, does this mean that I can be me, and even if I'm pushed to the very margins of society, and have everyone in the world think that I absolutely suck and hates me absolutely, I might still be an OK person?

Does my worth really not hinge of other peoples' opinions of me?

(Do most people figure this out shortly after adolecense?)